im recording my songs right now, but i have no drummer or drumset.
so im looking for a drum synth program taht sounds like the real thing. anyone have any suggestions?

Waldorf Attack

or, if you're really lazy:

Steinberg groove agent, this one just plays and you can select what kind of drumn sound you want (anywhere inbetween 1920 - 2005 sound, and anywhere in between minimal (just the hats) or heavy breaks, with fill inns every bar).

I use Stylus RMX. It's a great sounding drum program. You can build up your own drum parts from preset beats and fills or put your own together.

There also is that one : Sonic Charge MicroTonic.
I tried using it and it left a good impression.